Why You Haven't Reached Your Goals

You have read the posts.

You have talked to the professionals.

You have researched the diets and foods and things that are necessary to implement in order to reach your goals.

Yet, you don't do any of it. You might have the best intentions and PLAN on doing it, but when it comes time, you don't. And that's because if you don't, who cares? Who will call you out on your crap? Who will know whether or not you reached your goal or took the time for you like you had planned to. NO ONE.

I am not saying it isn't possible to reach your goals by yourself. By all means, more power to you if you are able to do that. But more likely than not, having someone in your corner to hold you accountable can be your biggest motivator. Whether that be a friend, loved one or coach, telling someone can be a game-changer in succeeding.

However, experience has taught me that things change when you start to tell people what you want to do.

First of all, it makes it more real. Before the idea of running a race or losing weight or competing in a local competition was just that, an IDEA. Now, you told someone and it is out there in the universe. It is no longer a secret. Which is a good thing! This is going to be the ultimate kick in the rear end to get moving.

Now comes our good old friend, Fear. Fear starts to kick in. You have some fear around reaching your goal. You might be fearful if it is possible, fear of failure, fear of aiming too high. That in itself will make you doubt what you haven't even started yet.

Also, when you tell someone what you want to accomplish, you are allowing yourself to be vulnerable. You are putting yourself out there and depending on the type of person you are telling, they will either be your biggest cheerleader or might not be the most supportive. You never know what kind of reaction you will get, and this is all based on the other persons fear. Something to keep in mind.

The best thing you can do for yourself, is find someone who will support you, encourage you and be honest with you.

Start by clearly defining your goals for yourself. Then tell people. Tell one person to start and see how it feels. Then maybe reach out to other people who are in the same boat or have accomplished what you are looking to do. Do yourself a favor, and try different things. Going at it alone is possible, but it doesn't have to be the only way. Put it out there, tell people your goals, be proud of what you want to do and more importantly, ask for help and accountability.