We all struggle.
There is a common misconception that coaches don't struggle, that fit people have endless motivation, that thin people can eat whatever they want and don't have to work hard for it.
I am here to tell you that I struggle just as much as you.
The difficulty you have with being consistent with nutrition?
The feeling of wanting to do MORE MORE MORE with fitness?
The negative thoughts when you look in the mirror on some days?
Hating the scale that you step on every morning, even though you know you should be more objective with a number that measures your gravitational pull to earth?
Those are all things I battle. And I would be willing to be a lot of other coaches feel the same way. I am not alone in these feelings just as I want you to know YOU are not alone either.
It's becoming aware of what you struggle with, choosing to make a change and then taking action.
Do you have trouble being consistent with nutrition? Are weekends the trouble? Or is it evenings? For me, it was just knowing I had to hit macros daily that made me feel a hot mess. How do you get over that?
-Ask a friend or coach to hold you more accountable
-Start paying attention to the big picture - do you have a hard time on weekends? Cool, now you know that you need to treat your weekend like every other day of the week and have a plan, or rather plan to allow yourself some wiggle room if that be the case
The feeling of wanting to do MORE MORE MORE with fitness? This one is the most challenging for me. I love fitness. So I ALWAYS want to do more. I said it before and I will say it again...MORE IS NOT MORE. Less is more when it comes to fitness. It's better for recovery, stress management and your body overall. How do I stop the urge of wanting to do SO SO much?
- Have a plan. Plan what days you will take it easy, what days you will make it rain and then write it out and STICK to it!
-Find a program. Online, blog, coach, book..it doesn't matter so much where you get the program from but having a program will include rest days, easy days, deloads and everything you need.
The negative thoughts when you look in the mirror on some days? We all have "those" days. Where nothing fits and you are just not comfortable in your skin. How do you deal with those days?
-Be comfortable. Literally. Wear something you are comfortable in. Change the jeans 3 times and put leggings on. Don't fit it....just do what you can to get over the hump, because that's all it is....a hump
-Stop obsessing. Go for a walk, start a different project, call a friend....stop staring in the mirror nitpicking what you are upset about and change your focus to something completely different.
Hating the scale that you step on every morning, even though you know you should be more objective with a number that measures your gravitational pull to earth? This has become a new, bad habit I have. I know in my brain it doesn't mean anything, but if it says 1 or 2 pounds more than I was hoping, I get pissed.
-HIDE THAT SHIT. Seriously- put your scale in the closet
- Tell your roommate, significant other or friend that your goal is to NOT weigh yourself, and ask them to ask you daily how you did.
- Find another way to measure your success. Inches, pictures, feelings...there are many ways to measure success that don't have anything to do with the scale. Perhaps measuring success based on how you feel emotionally and mentally FIRST rather than letting a number dictate your emotions is a good place to start.
We all struggle. It's how we choose to deal with the struggles that dictates where we end up.
What will you choose...to continue to struggle? Or to get some help and a different perspective?